Every interaction you have with your child is a form of communication. It’s not just about the words you say: the tone of your voice, the look in your eyes, and the hugs and kisses you give—all convey messages to your child. The way you communicate with your child not only teaches them how to communicate with others but also shapes their emotional development and how they build relationships later in life.
Verbal and Nonverbal Communication
Verbal communication includes:
- Pitch and tone of voice.
- The words you say.
- Dialect, or using words your child can best understand.
Nonverbal communication includes:
- Facial expressions.
- Eye contact.
- Personal space.
- Hand gestures.
- Physical touch.
Nine Tips for Effective Communication
- Active Listening
Listening actively helps children feel heard and understood. Use gestures like encouraging smiles and affirming nods to show that you are engaged. Getting down to the same eye level as your child can help them feel safer and more connected. Show that you are listening by asking questions like “what?”, “why?”, and “how?”. - Reflective Listening
Reflect back what your child says using different words. For example, if your child says, “I’m not playing with Mark anymore,” respond with, “You are not playing with your friend?” This allows your child to express their emotions without judgment. - Speaking Clearly
Use language that is understandable and age-appropriate. Be clear and specific, and avoid derogatory words. Kind language sets a positive example and helps your child feel respected and loved. - Avoiding Bribes
Instead of offering rewards for basic behaviours, set clear and realistic expectations. Praise good behaviour and use calm consequences to encourage better behaviour when needed. - Explaining Feelings
Help your child develop emotional intelligence by teaching them to name their feelings. Listen with empathy and help them put words to their emotions, whether they’re expressing themselves verbally or nonverbally. - Using ‘Noticing’ Statements
Praise your child for specific actions to help them feel good about themselves. Instead of saying “good job!” be more specific: “I noticed that you put all of your toys away after playtime. Nice work!” - Having Fun Together
Enjoy lighthearted conversation and find ways to relate to your child’s interests. Laugh with your child but never at them. - Focusing on Behaviour
When upset, direct your criticism at the behaviour, not the child. Instead of “I don’t like that you are messy,” try “I don’t like it when you leave your clothes all over the floor.” - Leading by Example
Children learn by watching their parents. Only make promises you can keep to build and maintain trust. Lead with kindness and love to strengthen your bond and communication with your child.
Remember, every interaction is an opportunity to communicate effectively and build a strong, loving relationship with your child. Leading with kindness and love is always the way to go! ❤️
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